Overwhelmed By Your Life? Perhaps It Is Time to Simplify

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By Melissa Heisler


If you had millions of dollars, what would you do? Buy an expensive house and car? How about a used van and park it by the ocean? That is exactly what Major League pitcher Daniel Norris did. Instead of spending his multimillion dollar contract to live up to the appearance of a celebrity ball player, this 21-year-old pitcher chose a simpler life. In a segment on the Today Show Daniel Norris said, “When I can simplify outside of the fair and foul lines, that’s so much less to think about off the field and all my focus is put onto the baseball field.”

As you go through your day, what is causing your stress, worry, and distraction? Is it a desire for a new car? Is it ensuring your dinner party is as good as your neighbor’s was? Are you concerned about people stealing what you own? Are you having difficulty paying your mortgage but worry you have failed if you downsize? Are you stressed because you can’t seem to achieve the American dream? Perhaps your unique dream life is different from the one society has dictated for us all.

Are the issues causing stress in your life providing you with any value? Start cataloging everything in your life. What brings you joy? What makes you feel whole? What helps to make you your best? Now, what is causing you to feel overwhelmed? What is a distraction? What is more hassle than it is worth? Next explore what is keeping you from removing things from your life that are affecting you negatively. Do you keep them around for your values or someone else’s? Are you living your unique Type Me life or are you unhappily living someone else’s life? Your ideal life might not to be living in a van, but is it the way you are living now?

Look around you. Did you create your life or are you living the life your parents, society, or your peers instilled in you? Are you trying to win at a game you don’t want to play? If you had the courage and the means, what life would you create? What would be included? What would you remove?

Henry David Thoreau wrote in the book Walden, “Simplify, simplify, simplify.” Simplifying your life is not just about downsizing your house or selling your possessions. At its heart, simplifying means living by your values. What do you personally value? When you choose to add something in your life, do you first gauge it against what you values? If you lived by your values, what would you experience? Make a list of all of the adjectives that would describe your life if you lived by your values. Perhaps it would be calm, peaceful, and content. Perhaps it would be exciting, adventurous, and joyful. What makes your heart sing? What truly makes you happy? Are you actively bringing into your life those things that make you happy?

Can you be as brave as Daniel Norris and remove yourself from the expectations of your role and status to remain true to your Type Me? Are you willing to stand up to ridicule and live the life that brings you joy? Are you ready to choose your version of living no matter what society expects? It is time to simplify your life by removing everything that is not you?

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99 Things That Weren’t A Thing Until They Were A Thing

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It’s incredible just how many things weren’t things until they were things.

1. Dresses that are simultaneously blue and black, and white and gold.
2. Caesar salads.
3. Scientology.
4. Gluten.
5. French manicures.
6. White wine spritzers.
7. Courgetti.
8. Spinning.
9. Bodycon skirts.
10. Kale.
11. Tie-dye t-shirts.
12. Chia seeds.
13. Man buns.
14. The Crazy Frog.
15. Portable DVD players.
16. Pickling stuff.
17. The Ice Bucket Challenge.
18. Neopets.
19. Waterbeds.
20. Waterbras.
21. Backstalking.
22. Putting an ~inspirational~ quote in your email signature.
23. Hashtags.
24. Birthday candles that sing.
25. Flappy Bird.
26. Having a statement nail in your manicure.
27. Juicing.
28. Having a “twin thing”.
29. Gel nails.
30. The time the original Sugababes reunited and called themselves “Mutya Keisha Siobhan”.
31. Acai berries.
32. Paleo burgers.
33. Knitting.
34. Holographic leggings.
35. Ed Sheeran.
36. E-cigarettes.
37. Red Bull.
38. Green tea.
39. White tea.
40. White suits.
41. Contouring.
42. BB Cream.
43. Doge.
44. Hula hooping.
45. Bennifer.
46. Goji berries.
47. Taking the Eurovision Song Contest very seriously.
48. Uggs.
49. The word “normcore”.
50. Hair straighteners.
51. Shag bands.
52. Those people who give you free hugs on the street.
53. The pob.
54. Asking for a short back and sides.
55. Crocs.
56. Wearing jumpers your nan made you.
57. Saying “Talk to the hand, coz the face ain’t listening”.
58. Opposites day.
59. Photo filters.
60. Body paint.
61. Beanie babies.
62. Blankets with sleeves in them.
63. “Keep Calm” signs.
64. Cath Kidston.
65. Rebecca Black.
66. The Snogging Scale.
67. Silent discos.
68. Zumba.
69. Speed dating.
70. Gangnam style.
71. Nordic walking poles.
72. Dollzmania.
73. Scoubidous.
74. Neknominate.
75. Hot yoga.
76. People who actually believe starsigns are just made up, lol.
77. Motorola Razors.
78. “Baby On Board” signs.
79. Lava lamps.
80. Flannel shirts.
81. The Rachel.
82. Mini Polos.
83. Ballet pumps.
84. Crop jumpers.
85. The “sanasa sanasa” tune.
86. Girl boxers.
87. Coke Zero.
88. The Atkins diet.
89. Annuals.
90. High School Musical.
91. Charity wristbands.
92. Boob jobs.
93. Kabbalah.
94. Thongs.
95. Lindsay Lohan’s theatre career.
96. The word “random”.
97. Martine McCutcheon.
98. Hollyoaks Later.
99. Things being things.


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HBO Has Released new trailer From Season 5 Of ‘Game Of Thrones’

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by merrill barr

The premiere of HBO’s Game of Th rones is almost here, and to keep fandom excitement at an all time high, the network has released two brand new clips from the show’s upcoming fifth season, the first of which can be seen above starring fan favorite, Brienne. As for the clip below, viewers will get a chance to watch Mance and Jon Snow have a very one-sided conversation about honor in the lack of pride.

As the premiere grows closer, it’s reasonable to expect more clips like this to come out of HBO HQ, but it really doesn’t matter if they do or don’t because everyone will be tuning in on April 12.


Source: HBO

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Leonard Nimoy Dead at 83

Leonard Nimoy aka Spock of Star Trek fame dies at 83

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by Billy Caldwell

“Live Long and Prosper”

Seminal words from an icon of great magnitude. When I was a child, Leonard Nimoy was the missing link, the connection between alien worlds and humanity. The cool, collected, resolutely logical human-alien first officer of the Starship Enterprise in the television and movie juggernaut Star Trek.

Then he became the host of one of my all time favorite conspiracy theory shows of the 80’s ‘In Search Of…”, keeping us intrigued at the thoughts of the unknown. He recently made guest appearances in multiple shows like Big Bang Theory, Fringe, and even cartoon based series The Simpons and Futurama. His presence was always a welcome addition to any production he was part of.

Today, sadly, we found out this icon was found dead in his Bel Air home.

His wife, Susan Bay Nimoy, confirmed his death, saying the cause was end-stage chronic obstructive pulmonary disease.

His artistic pursuits — poetry, photography and music in addition to acting — ranged far beyond the United Federation of Planets, but it was as Mr. Spock that Mr. Nimoy became a folk hero, bringing to life one of the most indelible characters of the last half century. He will be forever remembered for his contributions and we will all continue to try to , ‘Live Long and Prosper’.

Beam Mr. Spock up Scotty, its time for his return to the heavens.


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The Truth About Exercising When You’re Sick Or Hurt

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By Yagana Shah


By Linda Melone

When you’re under the weather with a cold or achy muscles or joints, it may be best to skip your regular workout. But it’s not always necessary.

Obviously, a severe injury requires rest, but for less serious ailments, a little activity may actually make you feel better. Here are some of the most common health issues you are likely to encounter and ways to exercise around them as well as when you should avoid working out:

You Feel a Cold Coming On

If you have mostly “head symptoms” like a scratchy throat, mild headache or runny nose, you can likely go ahead with your workout with a few adjustments, says Dr. Kristine Arthur, internal medicine physician with Orange Coast Memorial Medical Center, Fountain Valley, Calif.

“Avoid strenuous activities like sprints, a marathon, boot camp or heavy lifting,” she says. “Heavy exercise while sick can strain your heart.”

If you normally run, consider a light jog or brisk walk, preferably indoors during cold weather. “Pilates and yoga are usually fine, but avoid hot yoga, as you may become overheated,” Arthur says.

You Have a Sinus Infection

If you have anything more severe than a runny nose and suspect you may have a sinus infection, see a doctor before doing your regular exercise, Arthur says.

“If you stress yourself with exercise and don’t get proper treatment for sinusitis, it can turn into something more serious, like pneumonia,” she says.

Be particularly careful if you have a history of asthma. Exercise can trigger bronchial spasm. Stop exercising if you hear yourself wheezing or feel you can’t catch your breath, Arthur says.

You Spike a Fever… and More

It’s best to stay home and avoid working out if you have “full body symptoms,” Arthur says. “This includes symptoms like muscle aches, chills, nausea, vomiting or diarrhea and particularly if you have a fever.”

Exercising with a fever of 100 degrees or higher puts you at risk for increasing your temperature even further.

“Never try to ‘sweat out’ a fever with exercise,” Arthur says. “This can put you at risk of dehydration. In general, listen to your body. If you start feeling worse while exercising – stop! You may make things worse and prolong the illness.”

You Develop Elbow Tendonitis

Called tennis elbow or golfer’s elbow, depending on whether it’s on the outside of your elbow (tennis) or inside (golfer’s), this syndrome makes it painful to shake hands, hold a racket or turn a wrench.

“Avoid any activity that triggers the pain, such as practicing backhand in tennis, painting or using a tool repetitively,” says Dr. David Geier, orthopedic surgeon in Charleston, S.C. “Upper body exercises that don’t recreate the pain should be alright to do.”

Supportive straps worn just below the elbow can also take stress off the affected area and can help you perform activities with less pain.

Your Wrists Ache

Wrist arthritis makes it painful to bear weight on your wrists and hands, such as while doing push-ups.

“The pushup places the wrist in full extension while the person transfers stress through the wrists,” Geier says. Avoid exercises that cause pain, or modify the move. For example, try push-ups on dumbbells (grasp them to enable your wrists to stay straight). Or wear wrist braces that limit the range of motion, which can help decrease pain during the exercise, Geier says.

It Hurts to Walk

Inflammation of a thick band of tissue, called the plantar fascia, that runs along the bottom of your foot and connects to your heel, is called plantar fasciitis. It’s common in runners, overweight individuals and in people who wear shoes without good support.

“It is unclear if any activity is particularly harmful with plantar fasciitis,” Geier says. “The biggest problem is getting up from a chair and going straight into physical activity or waking up and moving around a lot.”

Plantar fascia- and Achilles stretching exercises first thing in the morning, and possibly several times a day, can help.

You Have General Aches and Pains

Waking up with achy muscles from simply doing more than your usual activities the day before can be eased with stretching or by using a foam roller.

“Use a foam roller to promote flexibility of your mid-back and stretch your pectoral muscles (across the front of your chest),” says Jesse Phillips, sports rehabilitation supervisor at Providence Saint John’s Health Center in Santa Monica, Calif. “If you have knee pain, using a foam roller followed by stretches can help improve the mobility of the hip, knee and ankle.”

Keep in mind the difference between the discomfort associated with muscles working hard and excessive strain being placed on joints/ligaments/tendons, Phillips says.

“Moving a joint or muscle to the point of mild stretch is typically acceptable, but moving through pain is not,” he said. “If you are concerned about the potential of the latter kind of pain, consult a physician or a physical therapist for an evaluation.”

Next Avenue contributor Linda Melone is a California-based freelance writer specializing in health, fitness and wellness for women over 50.


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Llamas Elude Capture In Arizona

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By James Gerken

llama caught

UPDATE: Both llamas have been brought into custody.


Two llamas were eluding capture in the Phoenix suburb of Sun City, Arizona on Thursday, frustrating local authorities and providing entertainment for countless Twitter users. One of the llamas was caught by around 1:15 p.m. local time.

Local news affiliates are live-streaming the llama pursuit and it does not disappoint.

#Serial Season 2: Llamas On The Loose pic.twitter.com/rqcT8SP2pc

— Jarett Wieselman (@JarettSays) February 26, 2015

It was not immediately clear where the llamas came from or who owned them.

CBS News has dubbed the affair “Llama Drama” and “Llamas Unleashed.”


Llamas still on the llam. pic.twitter.com/sOWDqJTz1k

— Cooper Fleishman (@_Cooper) February 26, 2015

Someone please send the city of Phoenix some nets ASAP pic.twitter.com/ZOW0j6LEen

— Colin Campbell (@BKcolin) February 26, 2015

This post has been updated to reflect that both llamas have been wrangled.

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23 Terrifying Warning Signs That Don’t F**k About

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Visualizing the Future You Want

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By Shakti Sutriasa, LCSW, MA

All of us students were struggling.My 15-year-old daughter is taking a standardized test in English next week and as I think about helping her, I’m reminded of an exam I took not so long ago. It was for Psychopathology, a required class for my graduate program in social work. We were essentially required to memorize the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM), read scenarios and apply diagnoses.

On the last day of class, we showed up on Saturday morning for our final. Before our professor passed out the exams she said, “I want you to close your eyes.”

Being a dutiful student, I complied.

She went on. “Imagine yourself in a library. See the rows of books and all the information. This is what is within your brain. It has all the knowledge and answers. Allow yourself to access this, remembering it is here for you as you read each question and answer it.”

As I listened to her words, I saw myself in the library. I observed how my mind was made up of all this information, of the countless hours I’d spent studying notecards, discerning the differences between types of schizophrenia and personality disorders, between major depression and dysthymia, and on and on.

I took a deep breath acknowledging that all the answers would revel themselves to me. Then I opened my eyes and took the test.

Upon finishing, I felt relieved. I’d confidently answered many of the questions although there’d definitely been a few that had stumped me. Either way, I knew I’d passed, phew.

When I returned to school the next semester, I had the same professor for another class. After the first lecture, she approached me and told me I’d only missed two problems on that Psychopathology exam. I was shocked.

Why did I do so well?

The power of visualization.

I truly believe that if my professor hadn’t reminded me that I knew everything and walked us through that activity, I wouldn’t have done so well.

Can you think of a time when you’ve visualized success and it’s worked? Maybe before a race or a big event? Prior to a lecture or trip?

Using Visualization Does Two Things:

1. It Keeps Worry at Bay – We’re focusing on what we want and not spending a lot of time and energy on what we don’t want (that’s worrying).

2. It Invites the Universe to Help Us Create the Future We Intend – We’re always creating our world even though we don’t often realize it. By becoming aware of our thoughts, emotions and imagery, we can begin to manifest more of what we want into our lives.

Recently I used visualization as a way to staunch my panic and manifest a last minute solution. I was heading to Morocco and accidentally misread the boarding paper. It was in military time, 17:50, but somehow I was reading it as 7:50 pm. Not so good. We got on the bus at 4:30 pm when I realized my error giving us a little over an hour to go 30 miles on the bus, get through security, and clear immigration to make our international flight.

Needless to say, my traveling companion was furious but I kept telling her: “Visualize us being on the plane. See us sitting there.”

Finally she replied, “Fine. Imagine yellow seats because that’s what Ryan Air looks like.”

Sure enough, we got on that plane! The power of visualization.

I seem to always remember to use this tool when I’m in a crisis or to deal with anxiety but the key is to remember to use it all the time. When we plan our lives. When we see our future. When we think about our health. When we find ourselves worried about our children.

Visualize what you want.

See yourself in perfect health. See our world at peace. See your business thriving. Your children safe.

See it, feel it, bring in as much emotion and meaning as you can and watch the magic unfold.

Let me know how you use visualization in your life. What works for you?

Shakti Sutriasa is the Founder of DecideDifferently.com, a personal development company committed to empowering people to live more connected and fulfilled lives through coaching, counseling and workshops. Her unique approach combines modern psychology and spirituality to support people seeking positive change and self-transformation. Shakti is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and has an MA in Education. Learn more at DecideDifferently.com

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OG Punk Rockers THE GEARS to Release a Documentary: Don’t Be Afraid To Pogo

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by Billy Caldwell

March 26th at Vista Theater in Silverlake is the premiere of the documentary
March 26th at Vista Theater in Silverlake is the premiere of the documentary

Los Angeles punk rock icons THE GEARS are releasing a long awaited documentary on the history of these musicians navigating through the Los Angeles underground. Starting from the late 70’s at the infamous The Masque Club downtown to the days of now at Cafe Nela.

The Gears were to Los Angeles what the Ramones were to NY.  Surf punk tunes with incredibly catchy hooks, great songwriting with the punch of Mike Tyson in his prime. They shared the stage with iconic greats like X, The Blasters, The Germs, Agent Orange, and countless others. Axxel G. Reese and Kidd Spike still perform with new members Mike Manifold and Sean Shift, and just released a new album called “When Things Get Ugly”.

A special shout out goes to the recent passing of original drummer Dave Drive. A drummer with insane talent and influence on the many that have followed him. He will be sorely missed and it’s great to know that the legend of the gears will forever continue.

March 26th at the Vista Theater in Silverlake (at the Sunset and Hollywood junction) will be the premiere of the Documentary. Hope to see you there!


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